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these are part of the human body, and should not be discarded with ordinary filth and 
rubbish. See also 'Washing' below. 
Coil.
See I.U.D. 
Coitus Interrupts.
Some people use azl- 'coitus interrupts' (the male withdrawing 
from the female just short of climax) as a form of birth control. It is very unreliable. The 
Blessed Prophet allowed it as a method of contraception, but only with the wife's 
permission. 
Some men practised it when their wives were suckling children, so as not to risk 
impregnating them again to the detriment of the baby. Others used to practice it when 
their wives were pregnant, superstitiously fearing to harm the unborn child (in fact, 
there is no evidence that sex during pregnancy is dangerous). Usama narrated that a 
man once came to the Prophet (P.B.U.H) and said: 'O Messenger of God, I withdraw from 
my wife during sexual intercourse.' The Prophet (P.B.U.H) asked why, and he said that it 
was that he might not harm the child. The Prophet (P.B.U.H) replied: 'If there was any 
truth about harming the child, the people of Persia and Byzantium would suffer the 
same harm.' (Muslim.) 
The Caliph Umar said it should never be done without the wife's permission; and 
the scholars hold that this applies to all forms of contraception. 
The legal aspect of 'coitus interrupts (withdrawal before ejaculation) in the 
revealed law is fairly complex. The Hanbali school reckons that a man does not need his 
wife's permission, on the assumption that she does not have the automatic right to his 
ejaculation; nevertheless, Ibn Qudama al-Maqdisi, the most 'hardline' of this school, still 
maintains that obtaining her permission is preferable for the sake of amity. The Hanafis 
reckon that the woman has to give permission, except when times are very hard so that 
any children conceived are likely to be in for a miserable existence, in which case the 
husband is allowed to use contraception without her permission. The Maliki school 
actually allows the wife to demand and receive monetary compensation as the price of 
her permission! The Shafi' is hold that the woman's consent may be sought as a 
precondition for the marriage contract, after which she cannot complain.