Microsoft Word Marriage Guide doc

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Frigidity.
Women appear frigid when they do not wish to make love to their 
husbands. This is not normally because they are frigid, but because they are unhappy about 
their spouse for some reason. It could be because the husband always waits until the wife is 
too tired, or fast asleep; or because he is not very clean, or his breath smells, or he does 
not bother to prepare his wife for lovemaking, or because sex has become painful to the 
wife, or something of a chore. It is the duty of a Muslim husband to be alert to the needs of 
his wife, and act with sensitivity. (Remember, when your wife won't speak to you, she is 
trying to tell you something!) If men could talk to their wives, and listen to what they say, 
so much female frigidity could probably be defeated once and for all! See Chishti, The 
Traditional Healer, 285-93. 
Generosity.
The Holy Qur'an warns frequently against niggardliness. Good Muslims 
'prefer others over themselves, though theirs be the greater need.' (59:9). Remember your 
spouse regularly; and offer gifts and surprises. A Muslim wife will always be on the lookout 
for little ways to treat her husband-husbands should try to return the compliment. Some 
men will go to any lengths to impress wealthy male friends, and yet cannot bring themselves 
to buy their wives a box of sweets! 
'Whatever you spend for the pleasure of Allah, you will be rewarded for it. You will 
be rewarded even for that morsel which you put in the mouth of your wife.' (Bukhari and 
Muslim) 
'The Dinar you have spent in the way of Allah (is the one used) to liberate a slave, to 
help the poor, or on your wife and children; while the one that fetches the highest reward is 
the one you spend on your wife and children.' (Muslim) 
'Give the worker his wage before his sweat dries!' (Muslim) 
G. Spot.
A sensitive area a few centimeters inside the woman's vagina on the upper 
wall. Caressing this area can dramatically speed up a woman's climax, or even lead to 
multiple orgasm.