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Dominant Males in Bed.
Most women rather like their men to be dominant, so long 
as they know they will not be forced to do anything they would not wish to do. Many wives 
enjoy quite 'rough' sexplay, being `forced' (in a pretence situation) to comply with a 
husband's wishes- it can be quite flattering! Some even enjoy being spanked if 'naughty' 
However, remember that other women would not like this at all. It is not safe to assume 
that when your wife says 'No' she really means 'Yes.' Every man has the right to be the 
leading partner in his marriage, and there are few women who really appreciate 'soft' men, 
although they may never care to admit the fact! However, men should always be very 
careful to observe where to draw the line, and never hurt their wives. There is always a 
difference between fun and cruelty, and Islam has no place for torture and abuse. 
Dowry.
In the Subcontinent, the practice of giving dowries to the bridegroom or his 
family is on the increase among Muslims, but this habit is hardly known elsewhere in the 
Islamic world, and is almost certainly a borrowing from Hinduism. According to the Shari'ah, 
it is the man who has to give a wedding-gift, not the other way around, the idea being to 
make him take the marriage seriously, and to provide her with some financial security. The 
practice of the Companions was to hand this mahr over at the time of the marriage itself. 
See also 'Weddings' below. 
Dry Parts
. A frequent cause of painful intercourse in women, and hence of marital 
stress. It can be caused by nervousness, illness, or inadequate foreplay. Lubricants such as 
'KY jelly' can be bought over the counter in any chemists. 
The Muslim Marriage Guide: Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood

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