Microsoft Word Marriage Guide doc

Arranged Marriage.
A good thing if all parties are happy with the match. It is not 
permissible in Shari'ah for a woman to be married against her will. 
A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, once asked the Prophet (P.B.U.H) whether a 
family who wished to marry off a young girl should ask her permission, and he said: 'Yes, 
her permission should be sought.' (Muslim.) Imam Nawawi: 
'The woman has a right over herself concerning marriage, and her guardian has a 
right over her concerning marriage; but her right takes precedence over his. If he wishes 
to marry her to someone of a proper background, and she refuses, then she cannot be 
compelled; while if she wishes to marry someone who has a proper background, and her 
guardian refuses, he will be compelled to submit to her wishes; and if he persists in his 
refusal, the qadi is authorised to give her away in marriage in his stead.' (Sharh Sahih 
Muslim, IX, 204) 
Beating.
See under `Corporal Punishment.' 
Body Odours.
Underarms, underpants, and feet. Keep them sweet. See 
'Cleanliness.' 
Breath.
Some people have an awful problem here, especially smokers and pan 
chewers-and they may not realise it. First thing in the morning is another dangerous 
time for bad breath. All married Muslims have a duty to make themselves as palatable as 
possible for their spouses. Newlyweds might like to keep a packet of mints under the 
pillow, to be sucked on waking. Keep a miswak handy, and use it regularly. Smokers, 
especially pipe smokers, should do something about their breath before they attempt to 
have sex. Islam strongly condemns smoking anyway, and getting married would be a 
good opportunity to give it up! 
Celibacy.
The Sunnah of the Prophet ( P.B.U.H) was marriage, and he regarded 
total celibacy as unnatural and against the will of Allah. Anas Ibn Malik recorded the 
The Muslim Marriage Guide: Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood

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