Microsoft Word Marriage Guide doc

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she will be bitterly regretting it, and wishing things could have turned out differently. The 
kindest thing in this situation in Islam is to’ cover the fault' of your loved one, and set it 
aside, giving them a chance to repent and not repeat the misdemeanour. 'Whoever conceals 
[the misdeed of] a Muslim, Allah shall conceal his misdeeds on the Day of Arising.' (Hadith 
narrated by Bukhari) 
'It is in keeping with the mercy of Allah that you should deal gently with them. If you 
were severe with them, or harsh of heart, they would have dispersed from round about you. 
So pass over their faults, and ask forgiveness for them.' (3:159) 
None of us is perfect. None of us can claim never to have done or said something 
that we did not later regret. The most beautiful thing about Islam in everyday life is its 
mercy and compassion-and the knowledge that when we are sorry for the things we have 
done wrong, or the things we have not done that we ought to have done, that our Lord 
forgives us. This is one of His beautiful promises to us. 
'O My servants, who have transgressed against their 
own souls! Do not despair of the mercy of Allah! Truly, Allah forgives all sins; He is 
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful! (39:53) 
In Islamic marriage, we should try to act by these same principles, and always give 
our partners the fullest opportunity to make amends for their mistakes, trusting that their 
Islam is strong enough for them to live according to this principle. 
The Blessed Prophet (P.B.U.H) explained: 
'Believers are like one body; if one member aches, the other members ache for it 
with fever and sleeplessness.' (Bukhari and Muslim) 
'The Muslims are to each other like the structure of a building. Each part of it gives 
support to the others.' Then the Blessed Prophet (P.B.U.H) intertwined the fingers of one 
hand together with the fingers of the other. (Bukhari) 
All of this is not just a generalised teaching to all the Muslims; it is especially 
important to Muslims who happen to be married to each other.