The 50th Law (with 50 Cent)

Practical Grandiosity
Grandiosity is a form of primal energy we all possess. It impels us to
want something more than we have, to be recognized and esteemed by
others, and to feel connected to something larger. The problem is not
with the energy itself, which can be used to fuel our ambitions, but
with the direction it takes. Normally grandiosity makes us imagine we
are greater and more superior than is actually the case. We can call this
fantastical grandiosity because it is based on our fantasies and the
skewed impression we get from any attention we receive. The other
form, which we shall call practical grandiosity, is not easy to achieve
and does not come naturally to us, but it can be the source of
tremendous power and self-fulfillment.
Practical grandiosity is based not on fantasy but on reality. The
energy is channeled into our work and our desire to reach goals, to
solve problems, or to improve relationships. It impels us to develop
and hone our skills. Through our accomplishments we can feel greater.
We attract attention through our work. The attention we receive in this
way is gratifying and keeps us energized, but the greater sense of
gratification comes from the work itself and from overcoming our own
weaknesses. The desire for attention is under control and subordinate.
Our self-esteem is raised, but it is tied to real achievements, not to
nebulous, subjective fantasies. We feel our presence enlarged through
our work, through what we contribute to society.

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Although the precise way to channel the energy will depend on your
field and skill level, the following are five basic principles that are
essential for attaining the high level of fulfillment that can come from
this reality-based form of grandiosity.
Come to terms with your grandiose needs.
You need to begin from a
position of honesty. You must admit to yourself that you do want to
feel important and be the center of attention. This is natural. Yes, you
want to feel superior. You have ambitions like everyone else. In the
past, your grandiose needs may have led you into some bad decisions,
which you can now acknowledge and analyze. Denial is your worst
enemy. Only with this self-awareness can you begin to transform the
energy into something practical and productive.