The 50th Law (with 50 Cent)

The Fallen Woman:
To the man in question, the woman who
fascinates him seems so different from those he has known. Perhaps
she comes from a different culture or social class. Perhaps she is not as
educated as he is. There might be something dubious about her
character and her past; she is certainly less physically restrained than
most women. He thinks she’s earthy. She seems to be in need of
protection, education, and money. He will be the one to rescue and
elevate her. But somehow the closer he gets to her, the less it turns out
as he had expected.
In Swann’s Way, volume 1 of the novel In Search of Lost Time by
Marcel Proust, the protagonist, Charles Swann—based on a real person
—is an aesthete, a connoisseur of art. He is also a Don Juan who is
deathly afraid of any relationship or form of commitment. He has
seduced many women of his class. But then he meets a woman named
Odette, who is from a decidedly different social circle. She is
uneducated, a bit vulgar, and some would say she is a courtesan. She
intrigues him. Then one day, while staring at a reproduction of a
biblical scene from a Botticelli fresco, he decides she resembles a
woman in the painting. Now he is fascinated and begins to idealize her.
Odette must have had a hard life, and she deserves better. Despite his
fear of commitment, he will marry her and educate her in the finer
things of life. What he doesn’t realize is that she does not at all
resemble the woman he fantasizes about. She is extremely clever and
strong willed, much stronger than he is. She will end up making him
her passive slave, as she continues to have affairs with other men and
women.
Men of this type often had strong mother figures in their childhood.
They became good, obedient boys, excellent students at school.
Consciously they are attracted to well-educated women, to those who
seem good and perfect. But unconsciously they are drawn to women
who are imperfect, bad, of dubious character. They secretly crave what
is the opposite of themselves. It is the classic split of the mother/whore
—they want the mother figure for a wife but feel a much stronger
physical attraction to the whore, the Fallen Woman, the type who likes
to display her body. They have repressed the playful, sensual, and
earthy sides of the character they had as boys. They are too rigid and
civilized. The only way they can relate to these qualities is through
women who appear to be so different from themselves. Like Swann,
they find a way to idealize them with some highbrow reference that has

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no relation to reality. They project onto such women weakness and
vulnerability. They tell themselves they want to help and protect them.
But what really attracts them is the danger and naughty pleasures
these women seem to promise. Underestimating the strength of such
women, they often end up as their pawns. Their anima is passive and
masochistic.
Men who engage in this kind of projection need to develop the less
conventional sides of their character. They need to move outside their
comfort zone and try new experiences on their own. They require more
challenges, and even a bit of danger that will help loosen them up.
Perhaps they need to take more risks at work. They also need to
develop the more physical and sensual side of their character. Not
having to get what they crave by looking for the Fallen Woman type,
they can actually begin to satisfy their urges with any type of woman,
not passively waiting for her to lead them astray but actively initiating
the guilty pleasures.