To Moms: Appreciate Your Husband—The Man Who Put the Us
in Uterus
Okay, it’s true: You have had to do all the hard work and “heavy
lifting” so far, and you’re so busy you barely get the chance to pee—
but it’s not easy being a new dad either.
Remember, your husband is descended from the world’s most
successful cavemen, and he probably has dinosaur-size expectations
of himself. He may not have to protect you from saber-toothed
tigers, but most men still feel a huge pressure to go out into the
world and compete in order to provide for their families.
If your husband is quiet, don’t think he doesn’t feel things as
deeply as you do. Men shown crying babies responded with less
talking than their wives, but they had exactly the same sharp
increase in sweating, heart rate, and blood pressure.
There’s no doubt that many new dads feel as nervous handling
their infants as the first time they asked a girl to the prom. So be
patient with your sweetie. Be available if he needs you, but don’t
rescue him right away when he’s fumbling around trying to figure
out how to calm your baby—just remind him of the 5 “S’s.” He’ll
sense your confidence in him and he’ll feel great when he can do it
on his own. Then, rather than seeing himself as an outsider with the
baby, he’ll feel like a “star player on the team.”
10. Don’t Ignore Depression: The Uninvited Guest
My whole world suddenly turned black. My emotions
jumped from guilt to rage to despair to such utter
anxiety that I thought I would either jump out of my
skin or lose my mind. I had terrible visions of hurting
myself so I could be taken to the hospital and rescued
from all this.
I felt like I was being punished for thinking I could
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