What It Is:
A double take is a neat little trick that emphasizes to
your child that you’re not kidding around.
How to Do It:
After
a few seconds of clap-growling, raise a finger
(as if to indicate “Wait a second”) and look away for two seconds,
keeping your finger up the whole time. Then,
look back, growl,
scowl, and repeat your message. (“No! Stop
now!”)
I recommend adding a double take to your growl if:
• Your child ignores your clap-growl.
• You and your child are stuck glaring at each other (long glaring
often backfires and pushes kids to be
more defiant).
• You want to emphasize your frustration
and underscore that you
are the boss.
A double take can also help if you accidentally smile while
growling (even misbehaving toddlers can look so cute!). Bite your
lip,
hold up a warning finger, and look away for a moment—to
regain your composure—then turn back and say in a serious voice,
“I’m
not happy! I say,
No! No putting jelly in your hair.”
I often use clap-growl with young children who ignore my kind
requests to stop.
I clap my hands hard and g-r-o-w-l a warning deep in
my throat. That usually stops them fast … the way we immediately slow
down when a police car’s light flashes in our rearview mirror!
As
your child matures, you’ll growl less. But you’ll probably continue
clapping and/or using a silent cue like a frown,
raised eyebrow, or
straight index finger as a warning that your patience is up.
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