The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Many people say that you have to love yourself first before 
you can love others, but really, if you learn to love others, 
you will learn to love yourself.

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Practice non-judgment through non-assumption. Instead 
of reaching a conclusion about a person based on the 
limited information you have about them, consider that 
you’re not seeing the whole picture and don’t know the 
whole story. 
When you are more compassionate about other people’s 
lives, you become more compassionate about your own. 
When you see someone who has something you want, 
congratulate them, even if it feels hard at first. It will ex-
tend back and open you up to receiving it as well. 
P R I D E
Pride is often involved in many of our worst decisions. 
Sometimes, we know a relationship is wrong, but the 
shame of leaving seems worse than staying. Sometimes, 
we start a business and realize we don’t really like it very 
much or refuse to accept that we need to change or ask 
for help. In these cases, our pride is getting in the way. We 
are making decisions based on how we imagine people 
view our lives, not how they actually are. This is not only 
inaccurate, but it is also very unhealthy.
HOW TO RESOLVE THIS 
To overcome our attachment to pride, we have to start to 
see ourselves more wholly and honestly.

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Instead of thinking that we need to prove to everyone 
around us how perfect and flawless we are, we can imag-
ine ourselves more realistically: as people who, despite our 
weaknesses, are trying our best. In the end, it looks far 
worse to hold onto what’s wrong because you care about 
what others think than it is to let go because that’s what’s 
right for you. People will respect you far more if you can 
acknowledge that you are an imperfect person—like ev-
eryone else—learning, adapting, and trying your best. 
In reaching this mindset, you also open yourself up to 
learning. By not assuming you know everything or that 
you need to seem perfect, you can admit when you’re 
wrong, ask for assistance, and lean on others sometimes. 
Basically, you open yourself back up to growth, and your 
life is better for it over the long term.
G U I LT O F S U C C E E D I N G 
In a world of so much pain, horror, and misfortune, who 
are we to have happy, abundant lives?
That’s the thought process that so many people go through. 
One of the biggest mental barriers people face is the guilt 
that comes with finally having enough or more than one 
needs. This can come from many different sources, but it 
ultimately boils down to feeling as though you “don’t de-
serve” to have it.

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This feeling often comes up when we start to earn more 
money or have nicer things. Often, people will sabotage 
their higher incomes with reckless discretionary spending 
or by being less vigilant about their clientele or workload, 
because they are not quite comfortable having more than 
the basic necessities, and so they put themselves back into 
a comfortable feeling of lack.
When it comes to success, guilt is an unfortunately com-
mon emotion, especially for good-hearted people who 
want to do the right thing and live authentic lives.