The Mountain Is You

GET A PLAN, BECAUSE PLANS FIX PROBLEMS
Mentally strong people are planners.
They think ahead. They prepare. They do what’s best for 
the long-term outcome.
You might think that this disconnects them from the mo-
ment, but the opposite is true. Worrying disconnects you 
from the moment. Overthinking disconnects you from 
the moment. When you are consistently sidelined from 

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your own anxiety, it’s because you don’t have a plan re-
garding the thing that’s making you scared.
Think about something you aren’t scared of. Do you know 
why you aren’t scared of it? Because you have a plan for 
what you’d do if it were to happen. So you’re able to let go 
and be present.
Whether it’s becoming financially healthy, improving 
your relationships, going to therapy, getting a new job, or 
pursuing a new career path or dream: If you don’t have a 
plan, you’re going to keep having a problem.
HUMBLE YOURSELF, BECAUSE IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU
It seems like everyone is thinking about you, judging 
you, evaluating you, and determining your status in life. 
They aren’t.
Social media has likened us all to mini-celebrities in our 
own circles: We become convinced that everyone around 
us is disproportionately concerned with the minutiae of 
our lives.
In a number of decades, you will be gone. Your home will 
be sold to a new family. Your job will be taken by someone 
else. Your kids will be adults. Your work will be done. This 
isn’t supposed to depress you; it is supposed to liberate you.

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Nobody is thinking about you in the way that you think 
they are thinking about you. They are mostly thinking of 
themselves. When you feel self-conscious for going gro-
cery shopping in your sweatpants, please know that no-
body cares and nobody is looking. When you feel anxious 
about your accomplishments or lack thereof, please know 
that for the most part, nobody cares and nobody is look-
ing. This is true of absolutely everything in life.
Nobody is evaluating you the way you are evaluating you. 
They mostly take you at face value. Stop thinking that 
you’re the sun that everyone revolves around. This world 
is not all about you. Your life isn’t even all about you. The 
more you can put aside your spotlight complex, the more 
you’re going to be able to relax.