John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

you will be reconditioning him to respond positively to your requests. When a man gradually 
realizes that he is appreciated and not taken for granted and that he pleases you, he will want to 
respond positively to your requests when he can. Then he will begin automatically offering his 
support. But this advanced stage shouldn't be expected in the beginning. 
 
But there's another reason to start by asking him for what he's already giving. You need to be 
sure you're asking in a way he can bear you and respond. That's what I mean when I say 
"asking correctly." 
 
Tips for Motivating a Man 
 
There are five secrets of how to correctly ask a Martian for support. If they are not observed, he 
may be easily turned off. They are: appropriate timing, non-demanding attitude, be brief, be 
direct, and use correct wording. 
 

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Let's look at each more closely: 
 
1. Appropriate Timing. Be careful not to ask him to do something that he is obviously just 
planning to do. For example, if he is about to empty the trash, don't say "Could you empty the 
trash?" He will feel you are telling him what to do. Timing is crucial. Also if he is fully focused 
on something don't expect him immediately to respond to your request. 
 
2. Non-demanding Attitude. Remember, a request is not a demand. If you have a resentful or 
demanding attitude, no matter how carefully you choose your words, he will feel 
unappreciated for what he has already given and probably say no. 
 
3. Be Brief. Avoid giving him a fist of reasons why he should help you. Assume that he doesn't