upsetting you. I am afraid to share my feelings. I am afraid you will make me wrong. I am
afraid of looking incompetent. I am afraid you do not appreciate me. I am afraid to talk with
you when you are so upset. I don't know what to say.
4. Regret.. I am sorry I hurt you. I am sorry I don't agree with you. I am sorry that I became so
cold. I am sorry that I am so resistant to your ideas. I am sorry that I am in such a hurry to do
what I want. I am sorry that I make your feelings wrong. You do not deserve to be treated that
way. I am sorry that I judged you.
5. Love.. I love you and I want to work this out. I think I could listen to your feelings now. I
want to support you. I understand I hurt your feelings. I am sorry I was so invalidating of your
feelings. I really love you so much. I want to be your hero and I don't want to just agree with
everything. I want you to admire me. I need to be me and I support you in being you. I love
you. This time when we talk I will be more patient and understanding. You deserve that.
I love you, Michael
PS. The response I would like to hear: - I love you, Michael. I really appreciate what a caring
and understanding man you are. I trust we can work this out."
A Love Letter About Frustration and Disappointment
Jean left a message for her husband, Bill, saying that she wanted him to bring some important
mail home. Somehow, Bill never got the message. When he arrived home without the mail,
Jean's reaction was strong frustration and disappointment.
Although Bill was not at fault, when Jean continued making comments about how much she
needed that mall and how frustrated she was, he started to feel blamed and attacked. Jean did
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