Love Letter to her father and suddenly she was no longer angry with Tom.
5. Rachel was attracted to Phil until he said he loved her and wanted to make a commitment.
The next day her mood suddenly changed. She began to have a lot of doubts and her passion
disappeared. As she wrote him a Love Letter she discovered that she was angry with her father
for being so passive and hurting her mother. After she wrote a Love Letter to her father and
released her negative feelings, she suddenly felt attracted again to Phil.
As you begin practicing Love Letters, you may not always experience past memories and
feelings. But as you open up and go deeper into your feelings, it will become clearer that when
you are really upset it is about something in your past as well.
THE DELAYED REACTION RESPONSE
Just as love may bring up our past unresolved feelings, so does getting what you want. I
remember when I first learned about this. Many years ago I had wanted sex from my partner,
but she wasn't in the mood. In my mind I accepted that. The next day I hinted around, and she
still was not interested. This pattern continued every day.
By the end of two weeks I was beginning to feel resentful. But at that time in my life I didn't
know how to communicate feelings. Instead of talking about my feelings and my frustration I
just kept pretending as if everything were OK. I was stuffing my negative feelings and trying
to be loving. For two weeks my resentment continued to build.
I did everything I knew to please her and make her happy, while inside I was resenting her
rejection of me. At the end of two weeks I went out and bought her a pretty nightgown. I
brought it home and that evening I gave it to her. She opened the box and was happily
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