Microsoft Word Marriage Guide doc

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spicuously; they should bear in mind that the urge can be just as overwhelming and 
just as frustrating if not fulfilled. 
Reward for Sex.
The Prophet (P.B.U.H) actually spoke of a man's unselfish 
sexual fulfillment of his wife's needs as a sadaqa: 
'In every declaration of subhan Allah there is a sadaqa; in every takbir, in every 
al-hamdu li'Llah, in every la ilaha illa'Llah, in every enjoining of good there is sadaqa. 
Forbidding that which is evil is sadaqa. And in a man's sexual intercourse with his wife 
there is sadaqa.' (Muslim) 
Safe Period.
Some people try to avoid pregnancy without using contraceptives 
by only making love during the so-called 'safe-period'-usually the middle days of the 
menstrual cycle. This is not a reliable method, and has a failure rate of up to 30%. 
Scent.
This is sunnah, although the wife should obviously not use it carelessly 
outside the home! But some people find the excessive use of scent by a partner to be 
irritating, and this should be looked out for. 
Sense of Humour.
A vital ingredient in a marriage. According to a hadith, 
'Allah's Messenger was one of the most humorous of people.' (Bazzar, Tabarani.) 
Remember, it is always kinder to laugh at yourself than at someone else. Also bear in 
mind that it is against the sunnah to make people laugh by making something up. 
Sex Films.
Sexy and pornographic films are haram for Muslims. They are in fact 
not only degrading but dangerous, because they lead men to want and fantasize over 
very unrealistic sex. The women are actresses-their reaction to the men is not realistic 
at all but faked in order to please them. Many women would either feel nothing if 
these practices were indulged in, or would be shocked and upset. 
Sex Manuals.
Vast numbers of these are now available in ordinary bookshops. 
Unfortunately, almost all the recent ones are illustrated, and contain assumptions 
and practices which are unacceptable in Islam. Anything published before about 1970 is 
likely to stress many of the basic questions of hygiene and morality which Muslims share. 
There are dozens of excellent sex manuals in Arabic. Some of these are extremely 
advanced, far more so, in fact, than most non-Muslim works available in the West. Many 
great ulema wrote such books, including Ibn Jama'a and Ibn Kamal. Imam al-Suyuti wrote no 
fewer than eight books on sexual technique! Sadly, these are not yet available in English.