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www.al-islamforall@org 48 announcement of her husband's urges, perhaps after he has sat up late watching TV, after which he rolls into bed to get the whole business over with as quickly as possible before he drops off to sleep. Similarly, there is no justification for using one's religious devotions as an excuse to deprive a loving partner. According to Abu Sad, the Prophet (P.B.U.H) once rebuked the wife of Safwan Ibn al-Mu'attal for being over pious to the detriment of her marriage. She used to read two long surahs during her night prayer, keeping her husband waiting; and she fasted frequently without his permission, which made her tired and prevented any opportunity for sex during the day (sexual activity being forbidden while fasting). The Blessed Prophet ruled in favour of the husband, recommending that she limit her recitation to one surah, and only fasted with her husband's permission. Similarly, when the Prophet heard that an ascetic Companion, Abdallah Ibn 'Amr, was in the habit of praying all night and fasting all day, he told him to moderate his devotions, pointing out that 'Your eye has a right over you, your guests have a right over you, and your wife has a right over you.' (Bukhari.) This hadith should be taken seriously. Many Muslim wives in nuclear families know only too well the long hours of loneliness while their husbands are away at the mosque, and how frequently they dawdle with their friends (even if the last prayer is very late), and sometimes fail to come to bed until the wife is already asleep, or is so tired that she is no longer interested! The Blessed Prophet's own practice was not to remain in the mosque or with others after the last prayer of the day, but to leave the mosque and return home. It is a Sunnah to sleep quite early, and to rise early as well. If some of the above reads like a comment on your own attitude or activities, then you would do well to examine your conscience! Nobody is suggesting that a normal marriage has to be a constant round of physical gymnastics at every moment of the day-merely that the legitimate needs of both partners must be taken into consideration. A good Muslim woman will do her best to see that her man is happy and content. The good Muslim man must know that he has exactly the same duty towards his wife. Sometimes he fails in this duty simply because he is a selfish man and poor Muslim (even though he may find time for his five prayers). Sometimes, tragically, Muslim men can fail out of simple ignorance of what their responsibilities entail, and make themselves suffer as well as their wives, quite needlessly. This is not what Allah intended for either of them in their marriage-and with a little effort and knowledge, it could so easily be put right. If a man is consistently refusing to provide the answer to his wife's du'a for his kind attention he must realise that he will find some awkward questions to answer when he eventually faces Judgment, and the books are opened to reveal all-no matter how shaming! He may have thought of himself as the 'best of Muslims,' without realising the truth of the words of the Prophet: 'the best of you are those who are kindest to their wives and families.' Imagine the shock, at the end of a pious lifetime of prayer and charity, of discovering that you had actually been guilty of cruelty towards your wife all those years, and were now called to account for it! Thankfully, every day is a new day, and it is never too late to make a fresh start and put things right. 'A Muslim's repentance is accepted until he gives the death rattle.' (Hadith in al-Hakim, Mustadrak.) Download 1 Mb. Do'stlaringiz bilan baham: |
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