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CONCLUSION 
Once sex has become a chore and a duty, the marriage is well on its way to 
being dead. If the man's efforts actually cause the woman pain or distaste, she will 
soon avoid any intimacy at all, and will use any excuse to get out of it. Headaches, 
weak heart, rheumatism-you name it, she'll have it. 
In fact, a real sexual relationship is so good for you it would help to heal all 
these conditions, since it is good healthy activity that raises the heart rate and 
stimulates the lungs, and takes the mina off disturbing problems and brings spiritual 
The Muslim Marriage Guide: Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood

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wholeness, serenity and contentment. The considerate Muslim man soon learns how to 
make his wife happy, and in doing so, refuses to get anxious and overwrought about his 
own performance. A good Muslim wife will never despise a husband for his physical 
equipment or lack of expertise, so long as he is loving and considerate towards her. 
And if they married as virgins, there will be no unfavourable comparisons for either of 
them to make! 
If a good Muslim marriage is to be sadaqa for the spouse and pleasing in the 
eyes of God, it is no use one partner seething with frustration and then finally cracking 
up. Both of them should try to find gentle ways of supplying 'feedback' to the other-not 
to be interpreted as criticism, dissatisfaction or hostility (which is what it becomes if 
left to ferment for too long), but as the only way to learn and grow together, as 
sanctioned and willed for us by Allah. 
May Allah forgive this author for raising topics that are sensitive and private, 
and discussing them in a way that some might think incorrect and distasteful. But we 
know that many Muslims nowadays are asking about these matters, and it is the 
Sunnah to make useful knowledge known, whatever it might be. 
Allah ta'ala decreed that creation should be set up in pairs complementing 
each other in harmony, and wished only happiness and peace for us. Therefore, we 
should all make it our jihad to create happy and fulfilled marriages, in the sight of 
Him in Whose 'hand' lie our souls. May everything we do be pleasing to Him, and may 
He bless us and bring us to fulfillment, serenity and completion. Amin.