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Prayer (salat
). It is important to a close relationship to pray together as much as 
possible. One purpose of the salat is to bring people closer together through spiritual and 
physical proximity, and this can be especially therapeutic in marriage. It also has the 
effect of attracting angels to the house. 
Premature Ejaculation.
If a husband comes to climax within a minute or so of 
entering his wife. This is very distressing for most wives, who might be too tactful or loving 
to say so. Any man with this problem should seek medical advice, for there are several 
remedies. Preparation. Sex without foreplay, known in the West as a 'quickie,' may be 
suitable on some occasions, but is likely to make the wife frustrated and unhappy if 
practised a lot. Most women need between 15-30 minutes of caressing to come to climax. 
Privacy.
It is fatal to have sex interrupted by phone calls or children. Take the 
phone off the hook (remember to replace it later!), and put a bolt on the door. 
Refusing Sex.
Unless there is a genuine and legitimate reason, the refusal of 
the partner's advances is forbidden in Islam. It is a hurtful rejection. Men and women 
should realise that sometimes the partner has a very strong urge, which may prevent 
sleep, and should be kind. The texts of Shari'ah affirm that the wife, too, has the right 
to sex. It was recommended not to neglect a wife for more than four days. 
Caliph Umar reckoned a woman had the right to sex at least every four days 
(one reason why a man should not marry more than four women); Imam Abu Talib al-
Makki added 'if he knows she needs more, he is obliged to comply' (Zabidi, Ithaf, v. 
373). 
If either partner is 'not in the mood,' or perhaps is woken from deep sleep when 
the other partner feels amorous, it is still un-Islamic and bad manners to bluntly reject 
the other. Men, because of the very obvious physical nature of their arousal, often find 
it hard to understand a woman's needs, which do not show themselves so con-
The Muslim Marriage Guide: Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood

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