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other rather than loving them for what they are. The Prophet (P.B.U.H) disliked nags and 
gossips, and those with caustic tongues-no matter how religious they were. 
A man said: 'O Messenger of Allah, such-and-such a woman has a reputation for 
praying to an enormous extent, fasting and giving charity, but she harms her neighbours 
with her tongue.' He replied: 'She is of the people of Hell..' Then the man mentioned 
another woman who didn't fast or pray much, but who 'gives a piece of curd as sadaqa, 
and does not harm her neighbours with her tongue.' He replied, 'She is of the People of 
Paradise.' (Ibn Hanbal) 
And remember that your spouse is your nearest 'neighbour'! 
Mother.
Men need to remember that a wife is not their mother. A young woman 
just starting out is not likely to have all the social skills of the older woman. A good 
Muslim mother will have sat the bride down and given her a few clues and tips as to things 
that will please her husband-but it is not her place to 'push in' or become interfering and a 
cause of stress or rivalry. The Muslim man, while honouring his mother, should not make 
his wife resent her, but should help her to acquire the skills so that she will in her turn 
learn the art of motherhood herself. 
'O Messenger of God, to whom should I be loyal and good?' 'Your mother.' 'And then 
whom?' `Your mother.' 'And then whom?' 'Your mother.' `And then whom?' 'Your father.' 
(Tirmidhi) 
Ovulation.
From the onset of puberty (usually when a girl is about 12 or 13) the 
female release one 'ovum' (buwayda, egg-cell) every month, and this usually continues until 
she is between 45 and 50 years of age (the 'menopause'). If the ovum is not fertilised by 
male sperm, the ovum and the lining of the uterus come away as blood (a 'period'). Most 
women ovulate every 28 days, but some have cycles as short as 21 days. See 'Periods.'