Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth
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Personal Development for Smart People
Career and Authority
Use your career to do work that truly matters to y o u . Be the commander-in-chief of your life, not the grunt. D o n ' t labor just to pay 169 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT FOR SMART PEOPLE your bills, to satisfy your boss, or to make someone else rich. W o r k for the ongoing betterment of yourself and others. A consequence of living a principle-centered life is that you'll nat- urally attract and accept more responsibility, eventually rising into a leadership role. This may include the external trappings of authority such as a m a n a g e m e n t position, but it may also manifest as a less formal ability to influence others. Either way, such principle-centered leadership is well deserved. It's intelligent for all of us to be guided by those w h o are truthful, loving, and powerful. Those w h o succumb to falsehood, apathy, or timidity d o n ' t make g o o d leaders. There are m a n y leadership styles, but all effective leadership must be centered in the principles. We respect leaders w h o speak truthfully and authentically, even if we d o n ' t always agree with their decisions. We connect with leaders w h o show compassion, caring, and kindness. A n d w e ' r e e m p o w e r e d by leaders w h o demonstrate focus, effort, and discipline in doing the important work that needs to be done. Building a successful career is both a privilege and a responsibility. T h e more authority y o u bring to your career, the more y o u can do to serve others, and the greater your impact will be. This is an honor to be accepted and embraced by those w h o are ready for it. Career and Courage W h e r e is the career path with a heart—the path that terrifies y o u , the path the stirs your soul, the path y o u secretly fantasize about? That's the path that honors the real y o u . That's the path that keeps y o u aligned with truth, love, and power. If y o u aren't doing some- thing that scares y o u and challenges y o u , y o u ' r e playing the g a m e of life too timidly, missing golden opportunities that could make a real difference. If your career path doesn't require courage, y o u ' r e in the w r o n g career. If y o u avoid all risk, y o u only weaken yourself. If y o u follow the heart-centered path, y o u can expect to take risks from time to time. S o m e will turn out in your favor; some w o n ' t . If your decisions are m a d e intelligently, however, the cumulative effect will almost certainly be positive, in many cases to an enormous degree. 170 Career I've taken many calculated career risks in my life. Sometimes I was afraid, but w h e n I believed I was right, I summoned the courage to act in spite of fear. M a n y of those risks didn't pay off. S o m e of them left me broke or deep in debt. However, some turned out far better than expected, such as the decision to switch careers from g a m e develop- ment to personal development. On balance, if you put all my failures and successes together, the long-term results look pretty good. I'm very happy with where I am today, and I'm willing to continue taking intelli- gent risks as my career continues to unfold. I know that in order to keep growing on my particular path, more courage will be required. Instead of running from fear, I've learned that I must turn to face it. Risk taking isn't gambling. In my h o m e t o w n of Las Vegas, peo- ple visit the casinos to place bets w h e r e the odds are clearly stacked against t h e m . Barring exceptional luck, the longer they play, the more money they lose. Mathematically speaking, w h e n y o u see a g a m e w h e r e the odds are against y o u , the ideal number of bets y o u should make to maximize your return is zero. However, w h e n y o u take calculated risks, you're making bets w h e r e y o u expect the odds to be in your favor. Even so, these risks w o n ' t always pan out. Sometimes y o u may place a big bet and lose, and the loss will set y o u back for several months or longer. But how many of those bets can y o u afford to make in your lifetime? You can probably make dozens of attempts or more. Even if y o u have only a slight e d g e , eventually you'll w i n enough times to more than cover your losses. Mathematically speaking, w h e n y o u see a g a m e w h e r e the odds are in your favor, the ideal number of bets y o u should make to maximize your return is infinite. Place as many as y o u possibly c a n ; in the long run, the more bets y o u make, the more y o u w i n . Another factor to consider is that w h e n y o u lose a bet in most casino games, the odds remain unchanged w h e n y o u place your next bet. Each effort is independent of the one before it. This isn't true, however, w h e n y o u take courageous career risks. Every time y o u lose, y o u learn. The more y o u lose, the more y o u learn, thereby skewing the odds in your favor with each subsequent bet. The main reason the odds of success in many competitive e n - deavors seem low is that there's so much " c h u r n " at the bottom. N e w 171 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT FOR SMART PEOPLE people constantly enter the field, give up within the first few months, and get replaced by more newcomers. They try it, they fail, and they m o v e o n . They lack the courage to persist w h e n the going gets tough. But if y o u just stick with it long e n o u g h , you'll soon bypass the slush pile and get into the long run w h e r e the odds keep getting better because y o u ' r e gaining valuable experience and w i s d o m . I often notice people starting new home-based Internet busi- nesses with great enthusiasm. B u t six months later, they've given up and have a b a n d o n e d their Websites. I try to spread the w o r d that six months is nothing. You need to put in at least a couple of solid years to get past the bottom rungs. StevePavlina.com earned a w h o p p i n g $167 during its entire first six months of operation, and I was work- ing on it full-time. That's about 17 cents per hour—not exactly w h a t y o u ' d call an unqualified success. It w o u l d have been easy to give up under those conditions, and most people w o u l d have d o n e exactly that. But I kept on learning, making improvements as I w e n t along, and the calculated risk eventually paid off. W h e n it comes to taking career risks, y o u must understand that in the long run, y o u control the odds. By taking the initiative again and again, you'll eventually figure out w h a t y o u need to know in order to succeed. W h e n people ask me w h a t their odds of success are in some endeavor such as blogging or online business, my response is: "If y o u train in martial arts, w h a t are the odds of becoming a black b e l t ? " Does it make any difference w h a t percentage of w h i t e belts eventually become black belts? M a y b e that answer matters to a statistician, but it shouldn't make any difference to y o u . All that matters is whether y o u ' r e committed to becoming a black belt. You decide w h e t h e r y o u make it or not. If y o u w a n t to build an outstanding career, y o u have to develop your failure tolerance. You must be brave enough to take calculated risks and accept the inevitable setbacks that occur without going into a tailspin of depression. S o m e of your bets will lose, including the ones that are 99 percent in your favor. It can be very disappointing w h e n that happens, but it's all part of the g a m e . It takes courage to play a g a m e w h e n you know you're eventually going to suffer a loss. Don't let a few failures get y o u d o w n . Just keep making the best decisions y o u can. 172 Career It's okay to risk going broke w h e n y o u ' r e convinced that the risk- reward ratio is reasonable and y o u ' r e willing to deal with the worst possible o u t c o m e . Going broke is really no big deal. I've d o n e it a f e w times myself; and to my surprise, I discovered there w a s no stop sign after running out of money, so I just kept going and rebuilt from scratch. A lack of m o n e y can't stop y o u if y o u ' r e determined. Are y o u courageous e n o u g h to risk going broke to pursue your dreams? Don't play the career g a m e for cash. If y o u think money is the top prize, you'll get suckered in by all kinds of get-rich-quick schemes, and you'll make a lot of d u m b bets. Even w h e n y o u w i n the m o n e y y o u seek, y o u still lose because y o u miss the mark. T h e real prize is fulfill- ment. This means putting yourself in a position w h e r e y o u ' r e doing work y o u love, building your strengths and taients, enjoying a b u n - dant income, and making a meaningful contribution to others. N o w that's a prize worth having. Don't settle for cowardly career choices. Don't w i m p out on your dreams. Exercise your courage to go after the prize of true fulfillment, w h i c h is so much greater than the illusion of security. Don't get so at- tached to material possessions that y o u ' r e afraid to risk t h e m for w h a t really matters. W h e n y o u die, all your stuff will be left behind a n y w a y ; it's really not that important. W h a t matters is h o w much conscious growth y o u experience while y o u ' r e here since that's the only thing y o u can possibly keep after y o u die. Download 1.6 Mb. Do'stlaringiz bilan baham: |
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