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Exaggerations Kill (… the Spirit, That Is)
Sweeping statements like “You’re the worst!” “You never help!” or
“You always whine!” are exaggerations, and as such, they are
usually unfair and always untrue. They make a person feel insulted
and demoralized and often lead to resentment and less cooperation!
I recommend you toss the words “always,” “never,” “best,” and
“worst” right out of your vocabulary.

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So when you’re angry, please skip the yelling and profanity and
instead tell your tot how his actions made you feel: “You broke my
favorite picture frame, and now Mommy is mad, mad, mad!”
Remember: like an ambassador, you are building a longterm
relationship. Can you picture a diplomat telling a king, “You’re so
stupid!” or “Shut up!”? Diplomats keep a cool head and a respectful tone
even when they’re mad, because they know that today’s enemy is
tomorrow’s friend.
Reframe That Name!
Fortunately, compliments and kind remarks also live long in our
minds. So replace mean labels that tear your toddler down with
descriptions that build him up. It’s one of the best gifts you can give.
Labels that
hurt
Descriptions that help
bossy
a leader
defiant
brave
hyper
energetic, spirited,
passionate
nosy
curious
picky eater
discerning, knows exactly
what he likes
shy
careful, looks before she
leaps
slowpoke
thoughtful, deliberate
stubborn
tenacious
whiny
outspoken

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whiny
outspoken
Unfair Comparisons
How do you feel when someone says, “Everyone else can do it, why can’t
you?”
Most of us hate being compared to others, especially when it’s being
done as a put-down:
• “Why can’t you act more like your sister?”
• “Stop it! None of the other kids are making such a big fuss.”

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Besides being unfair, there are two other big reasons why you should
avoid using comparisons to make a point: Before you know it, you’ll be
trying to stop your child from imitating some of the bad things that other
kids do. And goodness knows you’ll hate it when she starts pointing out
how her friend’s parents are nicer than you!