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Share Your Feelings with “You-I” Sentences.
Once the dust
settles, briefly share your feelings with a “you-I” sentence (discussed on
this page
). That will help boost your child’s ability to see things from
your point of view. For example, frown, shake your head, and say,
“When Sally throws flowers on the floor, it makes Mommy sad … sad.

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Mommy says, ‘No hurt the flowers!’ ”
Offer a Distraction.
After using the Fast-Food Rule +Toddler-ese,
acknowledging your child’s feelings, help her focus on something else.
Maisy, 18 months, toddled over to the bookcase and
began flinging books off the shelf. Her dad, Bryan, said,
“No! That’s not nice!” Maisy looked right at him, smiled,
then knocked a few more to the floor.
Bryan was tempted to yell, “No! No!” (the way his dad
used to do), but then he remembered connecting with
respect. So, in excited Toddler-ese he bubbled, “You want
book! Books! Books!!” Maisy paused and Bryan
continued. “You want books! Books!!!” Then as she began
to quiet, he said, “But noooo! Be gentle! No throw! No
throw!” Then Bryan offered a little distraction. His eyes
widened with excitement and he whispered, “Psst! Hey,
come quick! I have a special book we can read together!
It’s FUN! It has a pussycat in it! ”
Teach Values.
When a three-year-old took a ball from her little
sister and made her cry, her mother narrated back to the older girl her
desire to take the ball, but then asked, lovingly: “Did you want to make
your sister cry? Is that the kind of person you want to be?” The little girl
shook her head “no.” And the mother continued, “Can you think of a
way to make her happy?” The toddler returned the ball and the mom
told her, “Hmmm. That was a good idea. That was exactly what she
wanted to be happy!”