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Best Used For:
Toddlers age two and up.
The 90-10 Compromise: Your Toddler’s Idea
of What’s Fair
We all want to be treated fairly … especially toddlers! They can deal
with frustrations and demands much better when they feel like
they’re getting a fair deal. (On the other hand, unfair treatment can
make resentment harden into bitter memories and ruin
relationships.)
But who’s to say what is fair?
Most grown-ups consider a 50-50 compromise to be pretty fair:
half for you, half for me. But that’s not the way your toddler sees
things. His idea of a reasonable compromise is probably around 90-
10. (You get a tiny piece and he gets the 90 percent!)
Now, this may sound unfair to you, but take a moment to see
things through your little friend’s eyes and you’ll see that for him an
even split feels terrible. That’s because toddlers tend to focus on
what they don’t get. (Hey, I want that, too!) Their primitive, cave-kid
minds are kind of greedy and have trouble sharing.
Clever parents know that if they let their tot win many “small”
struggles (things they really don’t care about), their kids give in
more easily on the issues they do care about.
Of course, there are some situations where you will not be able to
compromise—situations that involve danger, aggression, or

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important family rules. But you’ll have fun using the win-win
approach for the dozens of situations each day when you can
compromise.
At first your compromises will be 90-10 in your toddler’s favor.
But, once you’ve used this system for a while, you’ll gradually teach
him that sometimes he has to give in more. As he grows older, you’ll
get him to make 70-30 deals … and eventually even 50-50
compromises.
How to Do It:
The win-win technique can be boiled down to three
easy steps: