Aneta and Tony were struggling on a daily basis with their
three young boys. Oliver, the oldest, was a great guy, but
he had always been a strong-willed handful. So when the
twins, Lucas and Mattheo, entered toddlerhood, Aneta
started to feel “triple-teamed.”
started to feel “triple-teamed.”
Aneta came to my office asking for help with discipline,
especially to get control of two-year-old Lucas, who was
driving them crazy with his screams, demands, and
defiance. I taught her the Fast-Food Rule and Toddler-ese
and the Happiest Toddler tricks for stopping tantrums,
and we put together a plan to start feeding the twins little
one-minute bits of fun (attention, play, gossip, playing the
boob, etc.) a couple of times an hour and one five-minute
special time a day for each of the boys. And as she left, I
asked Aneta to keep track of the number and intensity of
the outbursts for the next week.
Aneta immediately started feeding the meter by paying
attention to the boys when they were good and using kind
ignoring and time-outs to handle the meltdowns. She and
Tony particularly liked gossip, patience-stretching, and
special time, and after a couple of days they started to
feel more comfortable with Toddler-ese and playing the
boob.
I was supposed to call Aneta at the end of the week to
check on her progress, but she beat me to the punch and
called me one day early … almost giggling with a feeling
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