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4. Be an ambassador to your uncivilized little tot.
Once you realize your toddler is uncivilized (especially when she’s
mad), it becomes clear why parenting is so tricky. Most successful
moms and dads handle their toddler’s upsets with a mix of respect,
kindness, and diplomatic limit setting. In other words, you’ll be the
most successful if you think of yourself not as your child’s “boss” or
“buddy,” but as a skillful ambassador from the 21st century to your
primitive little friend.
5. Practice the Fast-Food Rule every day.
Upset toddlers often get so frantic they seem deaf to our calm words
of explanation and reason. That’s why, when your tot is
tantrumming, it’s imperative that you spend a minute echoing what
you think she wants and feels—to help her settle down a bit—before
taking a turn to tell her your important message.
6. Speak in your upset toddler’s native lingo—Toddler-ese.
Toddlers aren’t that good with language to begin with, and when
they’re upset, their stressed-out brains struggle with our words even
more. That’s why when your child is emotional—mad, sad, scared,
etc.—she’ll understand you the best if you translate your statements
into a simpler style of language, Toddler-ese. It’s as easy as one-two-
three:
1) Use short phrases.

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2) Repeat the phrases several times.
3) Use animated gestures and an expressive tone of voice to
mirror a bit of your child’s feeling. That allows you to connect with
her emotional sweet spot.
7. Encourage your child’s good (green-light) behavior with lots of
fun interactions like:
• Time-ins: Lavish your child with tiny bits of attention, play, praise,
gossip, hand checks, et cetera, at least twenty times a day.
• Confidence builders: Make your child feel like a winner by offering
choices and playing the boob whenever you can.
• Teaching patience: Increase your child’s control over her outbursts
by practicing patience-stretching and magic breathing.
• Routines: Create fun routines like bedtime sweet talk and special time
to help your tot feel smart, happy, and loved.
• Planting seeds of kindness: Teach your child how to be kind and
considerate by means of:
1) fairy tales, 2) catching others being good,
3) role-playing.