The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Many people say that you have to love yourself first before you can love
others, but really, if you learn to love others, you will learn to love yourself.
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Practice non-judgment through non-assumption. Instead of reaching a
conclusion about a person based on the limited information you have about
them, consider that you’re not seeing the whole picture and don’t know the
whole story.
When you are more compassionate about other people’s lives, you become
more compassionate about your own.
When you see someone who has something you want, congratulate them,
even if it feels hard at first. It will extend back and open you up to receiving
it as well.
P R I D E
Pride is often involved in many of our worst decisions.
Sometimes, we know a relationship is wrong, but the shame of leaving
seems worse than staying. Sometimes, we start a business and realize we
don’t really like it very much or refuse to accept that we need to change or
ask for help. In these cases, our pride is getting in the way. We are making
decisions based on how we imagine people view our lives, not how they
actually are. This is not only inaccurate, but it is also very unhealthy.

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HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
To overcome our attachment to pride, we have to start to see ourselves more
wholly and honestly.
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Instead of thinking that we need to prove to everyone around us how perfect
and flawless we are, we can imagine ourselves more realistically: as people
who, despite our weaknesses, are trying our best. In the end, it looks far
worse to hold onto what’s wrong because you care about what others think
than it is to let go because that’s what’s right for you. People will respect
you far more if you can acknowledge that you are an imperfect person—
like everyone else—learning, adapting, and trying your best.
In reaching this mindset, you also open yourself up to learning. By not
assuming you know everything or that you need to seem perfect, you can
admit when you’re wrong, ask for assistance, and lean on others sometimes.
Basically, you open yourself back up to growth, and your life is better for it
over the long term.
G U I LT O F S U C C E E D I N G
In a world of so much pain, horror, and misfortune, who are we to have
happy, abundant lives?
That’s the thought process that so many people go through.
One of the biggest mental barriers people face is the guilt that comes with
finally having enough or more than one needs. This can come from many

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different sources, but it ultimately boils down to feeling as though you
“don’t deserve” to have it.
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This feeling often comes up when we start to earn more money or have
nicer things. Often, people will sabotage their higher incomes with reckless
discretionary spending or by being less vigilant about their clientele or
workload, because they are not quite comfortable having more than the
basic necessities, and so they put themselves back into a comfortable
feeling of lack.
When it comes to success, guilt is an unfortunately common emotion,
especially for good-hearted people who want to do the right thing and live
authentic lives.

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