The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Be willing to accept that maybe your “success story” doesn’t look the way
that you once thought it might.
Maybe the kind of success you’re really hungry for is to feel at peace each
day, or making your life about travel instead of work. Maybe it’s about
having thriving friendships or a happy relationship. Maybe the business you
got into 10 years ago isn’t the business you want to be in forever. Maybe the
work you thought you’d love isn’t coming as naturally to you as you’d
hoped.
When we let go of what isn’t right for us, we create space to discover what
is. However, doing so requires the tre-mendous courage to put our pride
aside and see things for what they really are.
J U D G I N G O T H E R S
We all know that gossiping, or judging other people’s lives and choices, is
not a healthy or positive way to connect with other people. However, it does
far more damage than we realize, as it sets up barriers to our own success.
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If we feel bad about not being as successful as another person, we might try
to find something negative about them to make ourselves feel better. If we
do that every time we come across a person who is more successful than we
are, we begin to associate that level of success with being disliked. When it
comes time for us to take action to move our lives forward, we’re going to
resist doing it, because becoming more successful will create a breach in
our self-concept.

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In other cases, you might have heard people you grew up around
villainizing others who had money. They might have said things like, “Ugh,
rich people are the worst.”
Maybe they chalked all wealthy people up to being morally corrupt. This
sweeping characterization sealed itself in your subconscious, and now you
find yourself sabotaging your own attempts to become financially healthy,
because you associate it with guilt and being disliked.
When we set up judgments for others, they become rules that we have to
play by, too. By judging others for what we don’t have or because we envy
them, we sabotage our own lives far more than we ever really hurt anybody
else.

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