The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Healthy emotional processing looks different for everyone but generally
involves these steps:
• Get clear on what happened.
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• Validate your feelings.
• Determine a course correction.
First, you need to understand why you’re upset or the reason why
something is bothering you so much. Without clarity on this, you’ll
continue to waste your time mulling over the details without really
understanding what’s hurting you so much.
Next, you have to validate how you feel. Recognize that you are not alone;
anyone in your situation would probably feel similarly (and does) and that
what you feel is absolutely okay. In doing this, you can allow yourself a
physical release such as crying, shaking, journaling about what you feel, or
talking to a trusted friend.
Once you are clear on what’s wrong and have allowed yourself to fully
express the extent of your emotions, you can determine how you will
change your behavior or thought process so that you get an outcome that
you really want in the future.
J U S T I F I C AT I O N

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Your life is ultimately measured by your outcomes, not your intentions. It is
not about what you wanted to do or would have done but didn’t have the
time. It’s not about why you thought you couldn’t; it’s just whether or not
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eventually did. When you’re in a pattern of self-sabotaging behavior, you’re
often treating those excuses the same way you would treat measurable
outcomes: You’re using them to make yourself feel momentarily satisfied,
using them as a replacement for the accomplishment itself.
When we have a goal, dream, or plan, there is no measure of intent. It is
only whether you did it or did not. Any other reason you offer for not
showing up and doing the work is simply you stating that you prioritize that
reason over your ultimate ambition, which means that it will always take
precedence in your life.
You may also be using excuses to help navigate away from uncomfortable
feelings that are ultimately necessary for your growth.

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