The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Resistance is your way of slowing down and making sure that it’s safe to
get attached to something new and important. In other cases, it can also be a
warning sign that something isn’t quite right, and you might need to step
back and regroup.
Resistance is not the same thing as procrastination or indifference and
shouldn’t be treated as such. When we are experiencing resistance, there is
always a reason, and we have to pay attention. If we try to force ourselves
to perform in the face of resistance, it usually intensifies the
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feeling, as we are strengthening the internal conflict and triggering the fear
that’s holding us back in the first place.
Instead, releasing resistance requires us to refocus. We have to get clear on
what we want as well as when and why we want it. We have to identify
unconscious beliefs that are preventing us from showing up, and then we
have to step back into the work when we feel inspired. Wanting is the
entryway to showing up after resistance.
H I T T I N G Y O U R U P P E R L I M I T
As discussed before, there is only a certain amount of happiness that most
of us will allow ourselves to feel. Gay Hendricks calls this your “upper
limit.”
Your upper limit is essentially the amount of “good” that you’re
comfortable having in your life. It is your tolerance and threshold for

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having positive feelings or experiencing positive events.
When you begin to surpass your upper limit, you start to unconsciously
sabotage what’s happening in order to bring yourself back to what’s
comfortable and familiar.
For some people, this manifests physically, often as aches, pains,
headaches, or physical tension. For others, it manifests emotionally as
resistance, anger, guilt, or fear.
It might seem totally counterintuitive, but we are not
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really wired to be happy; we are wired to be comfortable, and anything that
is outside of that realm of comfort feels threatening or scary until we are
familiar with it.

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