The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Hitting your upper limit is a really great sign. It means that you’re
approaching and surpassing new levels of your life, and that is first and
foremost something to congratulate yourself for. The way you resolve an
upper-limit problem is by slowly acclimating yourself to your new
“normal.”
Instead of shocking yourself into big changes, allow yourself to slowly
adjust and adapt. By taking it slow, you are allowing yourself to gradually
reinstate a new comfort zone around what you want your life to be. Over
time, you gradually shift your baseline to a new standard.
U P R O O T I N G
Uprooting happens when someone finds themselves jumping from
relationship to relationship or changing their business website again and
again, when they really need to focus on confronting relationship issues
when they arise or taking care of clients they already have. In uprooting,
you are not allowing yourself to blossom; you are only comfortable with the
process of sprouting.
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It might be constantly needing a “fresh start,” which is often the result of
not having healthy ways to deal with stress or struggling with conflict
resolution. Uprooting can be a way of diverting attention from the actual
problems in your life, as your attention must go toward reestablish-ing
oneself at a new job or in a new town.

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Ultimately, uprooting means you are always just beginning your new
chapter but never really finishing it. Despite your efforts to keep moving on,
you end up more stuck than ever before.

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HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
First, recognize the pattern.
One of the primary symptoms of uprooting is not realizing that one is doing
it. Therefore, the most important step is to become aware of what’s
happening. Trace back your steps over the past few years: How many
places have you moved or worked? Then figure out what is driving you
away from each new thing you find.
Next, you need to get clear on what you really want.
Sometimes, uprooting occurs because we step too quickly toward what we
think we want, only to find that we didn’t think it through and don’t really
want that thing very much. Clarity is key, because you’re thinking long-
term now. What would it look like to choose one place to live, then build
connections there? What would it look like to
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work at the same place and move up in your position or build your
business?
Remember that healing from an uprooting pattern is not about settling for
something you don’t want, nor is it about staying in an unsafe or unhealthy
situation because you don’t want to move again. It’s about getting clear and
determined on what’s the right path for you and then making a plan for how
you can thrive, not just survive.
When the moment comes that you would typically flee, confront the
discomfort and stay where you are. Figure out why you are uncomfortable

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getting attached to one thing or another, and determine what a healthy
attachment would look like for you.
P E R F E C T I O N I S M
When we expect that our work must be perfect the first time we do it, we
end up getting into a cycle of perfectionism.
Perfectionism isn’t actually wanting everything to be right. It’s not a good
thing. In fact, it is a hindering thing, because it sets up unrealistic
expectations about what we are capable of or what the outcomes of our
lives could be.
Perfectionism holds us back from showing up and trying, or really doing the
important work of our lives. This happens because when we are afraid of
failing, or feeling vulnerable, or not being as good as we want others to
think
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we are, we end up avoiding the work that is required to actually become
that good. We sabotage ourselves because it is the willingness to show up
and simply do it, again and again and again, that ultimately brings us to a
place of mastery.

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