1. Physical
When he begins to desire her again she rejects him. She pushes away his physical affection.
She may reject him sexually She doesn't allow him to touch her or be dose. She may hit him or
break things in order to show her displeasure.
When a man is punished for pulling away, he can become afraid of ever doing it again. This
fear may prevent him from pulling away in the future. His natural cycle is then broken. It may
also create an anger that blocks him from feeling his desire for intimacy He may not come back
when he has pulled away.
2. Emotional
When he returns, she is unhappy and she blames him. She does not forgive him for neglecting
her. There is nothing he can do to please her or make her happy. He feels incapable of fulfilling
her and gives up.
When he returns, she expresses her disapproval through words, tone of voice, and by looking at
her partner in a certain wounded way.
3. Mental
When he returns, she refuses to open up and share her feelings. She becomes cold and resents
him for not opening up and talking.
She stops trusting that he really cares and punishes him by not giving him a chance to listen
and be the "good" guy. When he happily returns to her, he is in the doghouse.
When a man feels punished for pulling away, he can become afraid of losing her love if he
pulls away. He begins to feel unworthy of her love if he pulls away. He may become afraid to
reach out for her love again because he feels unworthy; he assumes he will be rejected. This
fear of rejection prevents him from coming back from his journey into the cave.
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