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up and share her feelings without demanding that he do the same. 
 
She trusts that he will gradually open up more as he feels accepted and listens to her feelings. 
She does not punish him or chase after him. She understands that sometimes her intimate 
feelings trigger his need to pull away while at other times (when he is on his way back) he is 
quite capable of hearing her intimate feelings. This wise woman does not give up. She 
patiently and lovingly persists with a knowing that few women have. 

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Chapter 7 
 
Women 
Are Like Waves 
 
A woman is like a wave. When she feels loved her self-esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. 
When she is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then suddenly her mood may change 
and her wave crashes down. This crash is temporary. After she reaches bottom suddenly her 
mood will shift and she will again feel good about herself. Automatically her wave begins to 
rise back up. 
 
When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls 
she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love. This time of bottoming out is 
a time for emotional housecleaning. 
 
If she has suppressed any negative feelings or denied herself in order to be more loving on the 
upswing of her wave, then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings 
and unfulfilled needs. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and 
be heard and understood. 
 
My wife, Bonnie, says this experience of "going down" is like going down into a dark well.