women who have learned successfully to deal with their feelings have felt their PMS symptoms
disappear. In chapter 11 we will explore more healing techniques for dealing with negative
emotions.
Even a strong, confident. and successful woman will need to visit her well from time to time.
Men commonly make the mistake of thinking that if their female partner is successful in the
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work world then she will not experience these times of emotional housecleaning. The opposite
is true.
When a woman is in the work world she generally is exposed to stress and emotional pollution.
Her need for emotional housecleaning becomes great. Similarly, a man's need to pull away like
a rubber band may increase when he is under a greater amount of stress at work.
One study revealed that a woman's self-esteem generally rises and falls in a cycle between
twenty-one and thirty-five days. No studies have been done on how often a man pulls back like
a rubber band, but my experience is that it is about the same. A woman's selfesteem cycle is not
necessarily in sync with her menstrual cycle, but it does average out at twenty-eight days.
When a woman puts on her business suit she can detach from this emotional roller coaster, but
when she returns home she needs her partner to give the tender loving support that every
woman needs and appreciates at these times.
It is important to recognize that this tendency to go into the well does not necessarily affect a
woman's competence at work, but it does greatly influence her communication with the people
she intimately loves and needs.
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