Answer: Martians give less when they do not feel appreciated. If you want him to give more,
then what he needs is more appreciation. Men are motivated by appreciation. If you are giving
more it may, of course, be hard to appreciate him. Gracefully begin to give less so that you can
appreciate him more. By making this change, not only are you supporting him in feeling loved,
but you will also get the support you need and deserve.
3. Question. A woman may feel, "If I have to ask him for support, he may think he is doing me
a favor."
Answer: This is how he should feel. A gift of love is a favor. When a man feels he is doing you
a favor, he is then giving from his heart. Remember, he's a Martian and doesn't keep score the
way you do. If he feels that you are telling him he is obligated to give, his heart closes and he
gives less.
4. Question. A woman may feel, "If he loves me he should just offer his support, I shouldn't
have to ask."
Answer: Remember men are from Mars; they are different. Men wait to be asked. Instead of
thinking, "If he loves me he will offer his support, consider this thought, If he were a Venusian
he would offer his support, but he's not, he's a Martian. By accepting this difference, he will be
much more willing to support you, and gradually he will begin to offer his support."
5. Question. A woman may feel, "If I have to ask for things he will think I am not giving as
much as he is. I am afraid-he may feel like he doesn't have to give me more!"
Answer: A man is more generous when he feels as though he doesn't have to give. In addition,
when a man hears a woman asking for support (in a respectful way), what he also hears is that
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