John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

ignored or disappointed hurts more because it affirms the incorrect belief that she is unworthy. 
 
NOW THE VENUSIANS LEARN TO FEEL WORTHY 
 
For centuries the Venusians compensated for this fundamental fear of unworthiness by being 
attentive and responsive to the needs of others. They would give and give, but deep inside they 
did not feel worthy of receiving. They hoped that by giving they would become more worthy. 
After centuries of giving they finally realized that they were worthy of receiving love and 
support. Then they looked back and realized that they had always been worthy of support. 
 
This process of giving to others prepared them for the wisdom of self-esteem. Through giving 
to others they camme to see that others truly were worthy of receiving, and thus they began to 
see that everyone deserved to be loved. Then, finally, they saw that they too deserved to 
receive. 
 
Here on Earth, when a little girl experiences her mother receiving love, then automatically she 
feels worthy. She is able easily to overcome the Venusian compulsion to give too much. She 
doesn't have to overcome a fear of receiving because she identifies so closely with her mother. 
If her mother has learned this wisdom then the child automatically learns it through observing 
and feeling her mother. If the mother is open to receive, then the child learns how to receive. 
 
The Venusians, however, did not have role models, so it took them thousands of years to give 
up their compulsive giving. Through gradually seeing that others were worthy of receiving, 
they realized that they also were worthy of receiving. At that magical moment the Martians also 

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