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JULIE LYTH-
COTT-HAIMS
ARGUES THAT
ALLOWING
KIDS
TO MAKE
MISTAKES AND
DEVELOP RE-
SILIENCE AND
RESOURCEFUL-
NESS IS CRITI-
CAL IN SETTING
THEM UP FOR
SUCCESS.
1. Do teach social skills.
A 20-year study by researchers at
Pennsylvania State and Duke
University shows a positive correlation between children’s social
skills in kindergarten and their success in early adulthood.
Teaching your kids how to resolve issues with friends, share their
belongings, listen without interrupting, and help others in the
home is a great place to start.
2. Don’t overprotect.
In today’s
age of helicopter parenting, many parents (including
myself) have difficulty allowing our kids to solve problems, but
rather rush to fix challenges for them.
Drawing on a Harvard University study, Julie Lythcott-Haims
argues that allowing kids to make mistakes
and develop resilience
and resourcefulness is critical in setting them up for success.
Newsflash: This isn’t easy. We all need to walk a fine line between
protecting our children and letting them tackle problems in order
to learn from them.
3. Do get your kids involved in academics early (then
encourage independence when they are older.
Research shows that reading to your children and teaching
them math early can greatly impact achievement in later years.
However, it is best to start weaning kids
off homework help later
in elementary school, as helping your child with homework can
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A
STANFORD
UNIVERSITY
STUDY SHOWS
THAT PRAISING
CHILDREN WITH
STATEMENTS
LIKE THE ABOVE
AND
FOCUS-
ING ON THEIR
INTELLIGENCE,
CAN ACTU-
ALLY LEAD TO
UNDERPERFOR-
MANCE.
actually stunt their development.
Parents should always communicate interest in their children’s
schooling, but encourage them to take charge of their work
independently.
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