because he is not upset.
3. A woman has so much to say that she doesn't want to be rude and just begin talking. To be
polite, instead of talking about ber own thoughts and feelings she makes the mistake of asking
him questions about his feelings and thoughts. When he has nothing to say, she concludes he
doesn't want to have a conversation with her.
With all of these incorrect beliefs about why a man is not talking, it is no wonder that women
are frustrated with men.
NOW TO GET A MAN TO TALK
When a woman wants to talk or feels the need to get close, she should do the talking and not
expect a man to initiate the conversation. To initiate a conversation she needs to be the first to
begin sharing, even if her partner has little to say. As she appreciates him for listening,
gradually he will have more to say.
A man can be very open to having a conversation with a woman but at first have nothing to say.
What women don't know about Martians is that they need to have a reason to talk. They don't
talk just for the sake of sharing. But when a woman talks for a while, a man will start to open
up and share how he relates to what she has shared.
For example, if she talks about some of her difficulties during the day he may share some of the
difficulties of his day so that they can understand each other. If she talks about her feelings
about the kids, he may then talk about his feelings about the kids. As she opens up and he
doesn't feel blamed or pressured, then he gradually begins to open up.
How Women Pressure Men to Talk
A woman sharing her thoughts naturally motivates a man to talk. But when he feels a demand
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