is being made that he talk, his mind goes blank. He has nothing to say. Even if he has
something to say he will resist because he feels her demand.
It is hard for a man when a woman demands that he talk. She unknowingly turns him off by
interrogating him. Especially when he doesn't feel the need to talk. A woman mistakenly
assumes that a man "needs to talk" and therefore "should." She forgets that he is from Mars and
doesn't feel the need to talk as much.
She even feels that unless he talks, he doesn't love hen To reject a man for not talking is to
ensure that he has nothing to say. A man needs to feel accepted just the way he is, and then he
will gradually open up. He does not feel accepted when she wants him to talk more or resents
him for pulling away.
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A man who needs to pull away a lot before he can learn to share and open up will first need to
listen a lot. He needs to be appreciated for listening, then gradually he will say more.
How to Initiate a Conversation with a Man
The more a woman tries to get a man to talk the more he will resist. Directly trying to get him to
talk is not the best approach, especially if he is stretching away. Instead of wondering how she
can get him to talk a better question might be "How can I achieve greater intimacy,
conversation, and communication with my partner?
If a woman feels the need for more talk in the relationship, and most women do, then she can
initiate more conversation but with a mature awareness that not only accepts but also expects
that sometimes he will be available and at other times he will instinctively pull away.
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