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things he does. But she may not express appreciation if she doesn't understand how important


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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

things he does. But she may not express appreciation if she doesn't understand how important 
it is to a man. She may let her resentment get in the way. 
 
HEALING THE RESENTMENT FLU 
 
Women instinctively appreciate the little things. The only exceptions are when a woman 
doesn't realize a man needs to hear her appreciation or when she feels the score is uneven. 
When a woman feels unloved and neglected it is hard for her automatically to appreciate what 
a man does do for her. She feels resentful because she has given so much more than he has. 
This resentment blocks her ability to appreciate the little things. 
 
Resentment, like getting the flu or a cold, is not healthy. When a woman is sick with 
resentment she tends to negate what a man has done for her because, according to the way a 
woman keeps score, she has done so much more. 
 
When the score is forty to ten in favor of the woman, she may begin to feel very resentful. 
Something happens to a woman when she feels she is giving more than she is getting. Quite 
unconsciously she subtracts his score of ten from her score of forty and concludes the score in 
their relationship is thirty to zero. This makes sense mathematically and is understandable, but 
it doesn't work. 
 
When she subtracts his score from her score he ends up with a zero, and he is not a zero. He has 
not given zero; he has given ten. When he comes home she has a coldness in her eyes or in her 
voice that says he is a zero. She is negating what he has done. She reacts to him as if he has 
given nothing-but he has given ten. 
 
The reason a woman tends to reduce a man's points this way is because she feels unloved. The 
unequal score makes her feel unloved. Feeling unloved, she finds it very difficult to appreciate 

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