John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

happening." At this point she proceeds to anger him by asking questions when he really wants 
to be left alone. 
 
"It's all right" translated into Venusian means 'This is a problem but you are not to blame. I can 
resolve this within myself if you don't interrupt my process by asking more questions or 
offering suggestions. Just act like it didn't happen and I can process it within myself more 
effectively." 
 
Without this translation, when he says "It's all right" she may hear "This is the way it is 
supposed to be. Nothing needs to be changed. You can abuse me and I can abuse you" or she 
hears "It's all right this time, but remember it is your fault. You can do this once but don't do it 
again or else. " 
 
"It's no big deal" translated into Venusian means "It is no big deal because I can make things 
work again. Please don't dwell on this problem or talk more about it. That makes me more 
upset. I accept responsibility for solving this problem. It makes me happy to solve it." 
 
Without this translation, when he says "It's no big deal" she may hear "You are making a big 
deal out of nothing. What concerns you is not important. Don't overreact." 
 
"It's no problem" translated into Venusian means "I have no problem doing this or solving this 
problem. It is my pleasure to offer this gift to you." 
 
Without this translation, when he says "It's no problem" she may hear 'This is not a problem. 
Why are you making it a problem or asking for help?" She then mistakenly explains to him 
why it is a problem. 
 
Using this Martian/Venusian Phrase Dictionary can assist women in understanding what men 
really mean when they abbreviate what they are saying. Sometimes what he is really saying is