really means, which is "I am OK because I can deal with this alone. I do not need any help.
Please support me by not worrying about me. Trust that I can deal with it all by myself."
Without this translation, when he is upset and says "I am OK" it sounds to her as if he is
denying his feelings or problems. She then attempts to help him by asking questions or talking
about what she thinks the problem is. She does not know that he is speaking an abbreviated
language. The following are excerpts from their phrase dictionary.
The Martian/Venusian Phrase Dictionary
"I'm OK" translated into Venusian means "I am OK, I can deal with my upset. I don't need any
help, thank you."
Without this translation, when he says "I am OK" she may hear "I am not upset because I do not
care" or she may hear -I am not willing to share with you my upset feelings. I do not trust you
to be there for me."
"I'm fine" translated into Venusian means "I am fine because I am successfully dealing with my
upset or problem. I don't need any help. If I do I will ask."
Without this translation, when he says "I am fine" she may hear "I don't care about what has
happened. This problem is not important to me. Even if it upsets you, I don't care."
"It's nothing" translated into Venusian means "Nothing is bothering me that I cannot handle
alone. Please don't ask any more questions about it."
Without this translation, when he says "Nothing is bothering me" she may hear "I don't know
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