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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

was unhappy. 
 
In Chuck's mind, the more money he made at work, the less he needed to do at home to fulfill 
his wife. He thought his hefty paycheck at the end of the month scored him at least thirty 
points. When he opened his own clinic and doubled his income, he assumed he was now 
scoring sixty points a month. He had no idea that his paycheck earned him only one point each 
month with Pam-no matter how big it was. 
 


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Chuck did not realize that from Pam's point of view, the more he earned, the less she got. His 
new clinic required more time and energy. To pick up the slack she began to do even more to 
manage their personal life and relationship. As she gave more, she felt as if she was scoring 
about sixty points a month to his one. This made her very unhappy and resentful. 
 
Pam felt she was giving much more and getting less. From Chuck's point of view he was now 
giving more (sixty points) and should get more from his wife. In his mind the score was even. 
He was satisfied with their relationship except for one thing-she wasn't happy. He blamed her 
for wanting too much. To him, his increased pay equaled what she was giving. This attitude 
made Pam even more angry. 
 
After listening to my relationship course on tape, both Pam and Chuck were able to let go of 
their blame and solve their problem with love. A relationship headed for divorce was 
transformed. 
 
Chuck learned that doing little things for his wife made a big difference. He was amazed at 
how quickly things changed when he started devoting more time and energy to her. He began 
to appreciate that for a woman little things are just as important as big things. He now 

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