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THE IMPORTANCE OF KINDNESS TO YOUR WOMAN
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THE IMPORTANCE OF KINDNESS TO YOUR WOMAN A person embarking on a journey across strange territory will be well-advised to consult a map. Similarly, it is a good idea for anyone embarking on marriage for the first time to have a rough idea of what to do and how long to do it for. For a Muslim man contracting nikah, this is a duty. A man getting married can probably already imagine what pleases him, and what it is necessary for him to do or experience, and for how long, for him to achieve satisfaction and a good, restful night's sleep to follow. He already knows that if he is turned on by something, and then is forced to 'cool it down, "turn it off,' and not be fulfilled, this takes a considerable effort of will, and is not a pleasant business at all. Imagine a hungry cat being shown a plateful of food. Once the food is seen and smelt, the cat goes crazy to have it. You hold the cat back, but the instant you let go, it leaps upon the food. It is perfectly natural for it to do so. Can you imagine how unjust it would be to a female cat if the male was always allowed to finish the meal and eat just as much as he liked, while the female always had the plate snatched away from her after she had just taken a bite at it? Nobody who kept a pet cat would ever dream of making this distinction between their male and female animals. They would see and agree straight away that it was gross The Muslim Marriage Guide: Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood Source: www.al-islamforall@org 47 cruelty, and totally in opposition to the will of Allah, Who has counselled kindness and consideration to all creatures. But sometimes men do this to their women, and it is a gross dereliction of their duty. Sometimes human beings develop one particular blindness - they forget that they also have a biological nature, male and female, and that all their needs and urges and intuitions are implanted in them by their dear Lord, the Benevolent Creator. As regards sexual fulfillment, if a man knows that he is not going to be able to achieve it, he is likely to make a considerable effort not to let his body become aroused in the first place, or if it is he will probably have worked out some means acceptable to himself of satisfying the urge aroused, even though he may feel unhappy about this. He may not realise that real sex is not 'like the films,' and that it could take between 15-30 minutes to fully arouse his wife; and that it is gross cruelty to make no attempt to do this at all, or to start off and then finish abruptly. If a husband has rushed to climax before his wife, he should not abandon his efforts, but continue his caresses until she is satisfied. If you love your wife, is she not worth those few minutes of your day? Allah created the sexual urge in us, and it is probably the strongest of all the urges He created. He intended it to be used, and He intended us to form a happy marriage bond with a life-partner; so there is nothing wrong whatsoever in thinking through ways of achieving the best in marital happiness. A happy and fulfilled night life leads to better sleep, contentment, a better work routine during the day, confidence, and a whole range of other benefits. It should be obvious that a happy sex life is as much a part of Islam as prayers or fasting! Download 1 Mb. Do'stlaringiz bilan baham: |
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