When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal

change. And if you do it right, you’ll work on becoming the person you
always wanted to be. You’ll look back on this moment as the pinnacle,
the turning point, the unanswered prayer that was the answer itself. It
will be the greatest thing that ever happened to you because instead of
a lukewarm relationship that wasn’t working anyway, you got the life
of your dreams… and you were the one who gave it to yourself.
How do you know when someone is actually right for you?

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The tricky thing about relationships is that they almost never end with
certainty. It’s not obvious that you should or shouldn’t be with this
person. For every issue that you have, you could list off all of their
redeeming qualities. For every argument, you could rattle off all the
great times you had together, all the signs and signals and ways you’re
positive that you’re just “meant to be.”
The opposite of knowing someone is right for you isn’t being sure
someone is wrong for you.
The opposite of knowing someone is right for you is being
overwhelmingly uncertain.
When someone is clearly and overwhelmingly “wrong” for you, your
relationship won’t get that far. You won’t be able to develop and foster
any kind of significant connection. You’d realize that you are
fundamentally incompatible long before you could form any kind of
attachment. This is not how heartbreak happens. It is not the product
of being mismatched with someone who is fundamentally “wrong.”
It is being matched with someone who in many ways could be “right,”
but raises just as many doubts. Realizing that someone is wrong for you
happens in tiny gestures. It is not posting a lot of photos online, because