When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal

somewhere deep down, you know the relationship isn’t going to last.
It’s avoiding introducing them to your parents, because you know they
aren’t going to react as well as you’d hope. It’s thinking to yourself in
quiet moments, “But what if there’s something else?” It’s daydreaming
about the possibilities that life could hold if you weren’t with that
person.

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It’s going back and forth wondering if this is the person you could
spend your life with, rather than just being in the moment each day
and actually spending your life with them.
Heartbreak doesn’t happen with people who are wholly wrong for you.
You aren’t able to get close enough to let it hurt. It happens with people
who are just right enough to make you hope, but just wrong enough to
prevent you from getting closer, or making it official.
That’s why you don’t have to watch out for the people who reject you
as much as you do the people who leave you hanging, the people who
keep wanting to see you without making a commitment, the people who
say it’s “just not the right time” or that they “aren’t looking for
anything serious.” The truth is that nobody is looking for anything
serious until someone comes along who they seriously love. It is never
the right time until it is the right person.
The opposite of “just knowing” someone is right for you isn’t “just
knowing” they are wrong for you. It’s doubt. Being very uncertain
means you know the answer…you are just too attached to admit it.
How do you “let go” when you can’t stop thinking about someone?
In the wake of your breakup, everyone around you is going to be
counseling you to just “let go” of the past, move on, and start anew.