John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by


message and certainly felt more loving to my Venusian daughter


Download 1.37 Mb.
Pdf ko'rish
bet91/285
Sana14.05.2023
Hajmi1.37 Mb.
#1458821
1   ...   87   88   89   90   91   92   93   94   ...   285
Bog'liq
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

message and certainly felt more loving to my Venusian daughter. 
 
NOW TO COMMUNICATE WITHOUT BLAME 
 
A man commonly feels attacked and blamed by a woman's feelings, especially when she is 
upset and talks about problems. Because he doesn't understand how we are different, he 
doesn't readily relate to her need to talk about all of her feelings. 
 
He mistakenly assumes she is telling him about her feelings because she thinks he is somehow 
responsible or to be blamed. Because she is upset and she is talking to him, he assumes she is 
upset with him. When she complains he hears blame. Many men don't understand the 
(Venusian) need to share upset feelings with the people they love. 
 
With practice and an awareness of our differences, women can learn how to express their 
feelings without having them sound like blaming. To reassure a man that he is not being 
blamed, when A woman expresses her feelings she could pause after a few minutes of sharing 
and tell him how much she appreciates him for listening. 
 
She could say some of the following comments: 
 
• "I'm sure glad I can talk about it." 
 
• "It sure feels good to talk about it." 
 
• "I'm feeling so relieved that I can talk about this." 
 
• "I'm sure glad I can complain about all this. It makes me feel so much better." 
 
• "Well, now that I've talked about it, I feel much better. Thank you." 
 
This simple change can make a world of difference. 
 
In this same vein, as she describes her problems she can support him by appreciating the things 
he has done to make her life easier and more fulfilling. For example, if she is complaining 

Download 1.37 Mb.

Do'stlaringiz bilan baham:
1   ...   87   88   89   90   91   92   93   94   ...   285




Ma'lumotlar bazasi mualliflik huquqi bilan himoyalangan ©fayllar.org 2024
ma'muriyatiga murojaat qiling