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Head Massage.
Another delightful way of expressing your love and care. 
Homosexuality.
This is not allowed in any revealed religion. We should recognise, 
however, that a few people do have a mental inclination towards the same sex, and the 
evidence is growing that this often due to a defect in the chromosomes. Every human being 
is a mixture of male and female traits, and sometimes a person is born with an inner 
balance unsuited to his or her physical characteristics. Nowadays, when the distinction 
between male and female character is being increasingly blurred in the population at large, 
homosexuality is becoming more socially acceptable to the secular mind. This is no justifi-
cation, of course, for committing what is the most unnatural of all human acts; but Muslims 
have to recognise that a person struggling for self-control deserves approval. The increasing 
recognition of this tendency as a genetic rather than a purely moral problem holds out hope 
of medical treatment, as technology advances; and the day may not be far off when all 
human beings can benefit from the delights and responsibilities of parenthood. 
'What-of all creatures do you come unto the males and leave the spouses which 
your Lord created for you? Assuredly, you are a people who transgress the limits.' 
(26:165-6) 
'Do you approach men in lust rather than women? 
You are a people that are ignorant.' (27:54-5)
Housewife
. Never say that a woman is 'only' a housewife. This infuriates every 
woman. It is a massive, demanding job, sometimes without a break for sixteen hours a 
day, and there is no retirement age! It requires intelligence, forethought, compassion 
and skill, and should never be thought of as inferior to so-called 'real' jobs outside the 
home. In fact, it is usually more difficult! If a man is lucky enough to have a housewife, 
he should appreciate her as one of life's greatest treasures. The Sunnah of the Blessed 
Prophet was to help his wives cheerfully: he helped with the less pleasant 'chores,' and 
lived in appreciation and respect for his wives. 
Impotence. 
For the penis to become erect the blood vessels inside it must be 
relaxed to allow blood to flow in. If they cannot relax, either because of tension or 
The Muslim Marriage Guide: Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood

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