13 Things Mentally Strong People Don\'t Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success pdfdrive com

TROUBLESHOOTING AND COMMON TRAPS
When you focus on what’s wrong with the world, without looking at how you
can control your attitude and behavior, you’ll find yourself stuck. Instead of
wasting energy trying to prevent a storm, focus on how you can prepare for it.
WHAT’S HELPFUL
Delegating tasks and responsibilities to other people
Asking for help when you need it
Focusing on solving problems that are within your control
Keeping the emphasis on influencing others rather than controlling
them
Thinking balanced thoughts about what is within your control and what
isn’t

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Not relying on yourself for the entire outcome
WHAT’S NOT HELPFUL
Insisting on doing everything because no one else can do it right
Choosing to do everything on your own because you think you should
be able to accomplish things without help
Spending time trying to figure out how to change things that are likely
beyond your direct control
Trying to force other people to do what you think they should do,
regardless of how they feel
Only thinking about what you can do to make things turn out the way
you want
Taking full responsibility for the end result without acknowledging
other factors that influence the outcome

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CHAPTER 5
THEY DON’T WORRY ABOUT PLEASING
EVERYONE
Care about what other people think and you will always be their
prisoner.
—LAO TZU
Megan entered my therapy office looking for help because she was feeling
stressed out and overwhelmed. She said there weren’t enough hours in the day to
accomplish everything she needed to do.
At age thirty-five, she was married and had two young children. She worked a